The Whole Boy

Stop Guessing. Start Strategizing. Your Family’s Plan for Raising a Capable, Emotionally Rich Young Man.

A five-week roadmap to lay the groundwork for his future.

For parents of boys 3-8.

You Don't Need More Advice. You Need a Plan.

You know what you want to teach him, but the world around him—from the playground to the digital sphere—is already socializing him with old, rigid masculinity anyway. The challenges you face, like unchecked emotional outbursts and unequal household labor, prove that socializing boys today is important work. You need a proven evidence-based roadmap to deliver real and lasting change.

That's why we built The Whole Boy. We replace parental guesswork with real guided change. This is the roadmap that turns your deepest fears about your son's future—his emotional life, his relationships, and his ability to find his way in today’s world—into a clear, actionable plan.


Your journey starts here

The Whole Boy transforms the modern challenges of raising boys into four distinct pillars of lifelong mastery for your son, giving you confidence and peace of mind today.

The Whole Boy Curriculum

Module 1: Emotional Range & Recognition

  • Your son develops a rich vocabulary and a safe framework for expressing all emotions (joy, fear, sadness, and frustration) without resorting to anger or withdrawal.

Module 2: Relational Intelligence 101

  • Your son learns to see friendship and community as essential skills and values, allowing him to form and maintain deep, non-transactional, high-quality relationships.

Module 3: The New “Provider”

  • Your son develops an internal value system that prioritizes effort, contribution, and his inherent worth over outcomes, enabling him to value others as human beings, not resources.

Module 4: Self-Sufficiency & Home Life

  • Your son starts to foster independence and awareness of the mental load, ensuring your son leaves home prepared to take care of himself and show up equitably in his future relationships.

Module 5: Mindset Mastery

  • Your son is equipped with the mental tools to think critically, resist misinformation, and use flexible thinking, ensuring a resilient and happier life.

The Whole Boy Toolkit

True behavior change requires tangible, accessible tools. This beautifully packaged system is delivered right to your door and is designed to move the lessons from the screen to the living room floor.

The Whole Boy Workbook

  • Your centralized guide includes complete program transcripts, weekly discussion prompts, and conversation scripts for using every tool effectively.

Chapter 1: Hello, Anger Book

  • A foundational text for understanding anger as a secondary emotion.

Chapter 2: Little Kids, Big Dreams Books

  • Centering female protagonists to normalize and celebrate ambition, emotional labor, and equitable partnership.

Chapter 3: Notice Cards (Set of 20)

  • The tangible tool for training initiative and awareness. Moves invisible household labor from your mental load to your son's skillset.

Chapter 4: Self-Affirming Decals

  • Visual tools for reinforcing your son's inherent worth and helping him resist external pressure and rigid scripts.

Chapter 5: Flexible Mindset Dice

  • The perfect tool to nurture agile thinking. Disrupts a fixed mindset and puts the power to  self-regulate back in his hands.

The Whole Boy Guide: Your 24/7 AI Support

We know that intervention needs to happen in the moment, not hours later. Your enrollment includes unlimited access to The Whole Boy Guide, our proprietary AI support system trained exclusively on The Whole Boy. Ask it about the tools, get instant script reminders, and troubleshoot tricky scenarios—day or night.

The Change You Will See in 5 Weeks

If you dedicate yourself to implementing The Whole Boy, here are the measurable, transformative results you should expect:

  • Emotional Regulation: Your son will be able to better recognize his emotions and recover from outbursts faster using the skills you have taught him.

  • Contribution: He will notice more around the house and contribute more to housework without constant prompting.

  • Empathy: He will recognize other people's needs and feelings, building the relational intelligence necessary for strong friendships and future partnership.

Secure Your Spot and Start the Shift

The Whole Boy is currently enrolling a limited number of families. Don't miss the opportunity to give your son the skills for a rich emotional future.

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How do I know if my son needs redirection?

The signs that a boy is being socialized into rigid masculinity aren't always big and obvious. They often show up as subtle patterns in his emotional life, his relationships, and his sense of responsibility.

Traditional masculinity is generally defined by the rejection of "vulnerable" traits and the emphasis on a narrow set of fixed norms: emotional stoicism, self-reliance, toughness, and dominance.

Here are the key areas where you can see the influence of these traditional masculine scripts in a boy's behavior:

1. Emotional Restriction

This is the most common and damaging sign. Social pressure teaches boys to restrict their emotional range to just a few "acceptable" feelings, mainly anger and sometimes happiness.

Signs you might see:

  • Reliance on Anger: Sadness, frustration, confusion, or fear are always expressed as anger or aggression. For example, a minor setback (like losing a game) leads to an explosive outburst instead of verbalizing disappointment.

  • Emotional Stoicism: Your son shuts down or physically withdraws when stressed, hurt, or sad. When asked what's wrong, the common answer is "nothing" or an immediate shift to a neutral or aggressive topic.

2. Relational Control and Dominance

This is the inability to relate to others in a cooperative, nurturing, or genuinely empathetic way. It's often reinforced by peer groups and media that promote control and dominance as forms of status.

Signs you might see:

  • Low Empathy and Awareness: He shows a low capacity to recognize or respond to the emotional or physical needs of family and peers (e.g., ignoring a sibling's sadness or rarely noticing when help is needed).

  • Overemphasis on Appearance/Strength: His self-worth is tightly tied to being the biggest, strongest, or most dominant person in a group often at the expense of others' feelings or the joy of the activity itself.

  • Contempt for "Feminine" Traits: He actively rejects activities, emotions, or ideas he labels as "girly," "soft," or "weak," possibly using homophobic or misogynistic language learned from peers or media. This is a crucial sign of the anti-feminine core of rigid masculinity.

3. Self-Sufficiency & Entitlement

Traditional masculinity often focuses on the man as a heroic provider or protector, which, in childhood, translates into avoidance of domestic labor and the expectation of being taken care of.

Signs you might see:

  • Low Initiative for Household Labor: He rarely notices tasks that need to be done (the "invisible labor" of a household). He only helps when explicitly asked, often needing constant prompting or praise.

  • The Expectation of Service: He expects meals, laundry, and clean spaces to simply appear, showing little curiosity or appreciation for the labor involved in running the home.

  • Avoidance of "Care" Roles: He is highly resistant to tasks that involve caregiving or nurturing, such as looking after a pet, comforting a younger sibling, or preparing a simple meal.

If you recognize these patterns, it means the strategic work of redirecting those scripts is critically important for his long-term health and relational success.

Meet your instructor

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Meet your instructor ✳

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Stephanie Sandoval is a behavior change strategist with expertise in interventions and root-cause analysis. She is dedicated to building foundational programs for emotionally whole boys.

With a Master’s of Science from the Tufts Friedman School and more than 10 years experience designing, leading, and evaluating programs, Stephanie's approach is backed by an interdisciplinary foundation in behavioral science, sociology, and criminology.

As a mother of two boys, she developed The Whole Boy by applying her expertise to real-life parenting challenges. Like many parents she observed harmful cultural norms making their way into her boys’ lives early on, and founded Raising Boys Now.

Raising Boys Now’s mission is to empower parents with a proven, actionable roadmap to inoculate their sons against rigid emotional scripts and toxic external forces, ensuring they grow up capable, contributing, and secure.

What you’ll learn

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Course FAQ

  • It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.

  • It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.

  • It all begins with an idea. Maybe you want to launch a business. Maybe you want to turn a hobby into something more. Or maybe you have a creative project to share with the world. Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.